If your online dating profile isn’t pulling as many responses as you’d like, consider making these simple changes.We’ve gathered expert advice on ways to quickly make your profile grab more interest and increase the attention you get online.
These symbols strike certain people as signs that you’re lazy, insecure or that you’re mostly unsure if your joke stands on its own, so you’re adding a virtual “laugh track” online.
A better alternative: If you’re tempted to use an emoticon or online shorthand acronym at any point, ask yourself: “What am I trying to express?
A better alternative: Looking for a quick fix for nixing negativity while still hinting at potential deal-breakers? And as you probably now realize, that’s a problem if you want to stand out from the crowd.
“Check your profile for any negatives and flip them into positives,” suggests Ferman. “If you’re writing a profile, you have exactly one job and that is to sound different than everybody else,” says Katz.
For example, “I always come back from an early morning hike around a lake feeling calm and centered.” This will give prospective dates a much better sense of your personality than all of your vacations and hobbies combined. ” Turn-off #4: Clichés that tell others nothing about you “I work hard and play hard.” “I’m happy to go out or just stay at home.” “I’m looking for a best friend, lover, and partner in crime.” Yup, you and everybody else.
Turn-off #3: Mass shout-outs by gender General greetings like “Hey, ladies! Maybes” make it sound like you’re addressing a crowd. Because everyone uses them, clichés like these pretty much say nothing about you as an individual…
“Your picture, if it’s good, will let people know that you’re attractive,” he says.
“And good grammar and spelling will indicate that you’re intelligent. Show us, don’t tell us.” Turn-off #2: Exhaustive lists of, well, anything Listing every hobby you have, job you’ve held, or country you’ve ever traveled to might seem like a great way to give people a sense of who you are.
If you are as comfortable in a black dress as you are in jeans, for example, say “Tomboy and sports enthusiast moonlighting as a woman’s woman who’s into opera, fine dining and dancing under the stars.” Turn-off #5: Negativity So you’re sick of being single, hate your ex, or can’t stand that new U2 album.