Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.It would be a shame to forfeit your future support on a relationship that may not last.
Not only will both you and your husband's conduct be scrutinized during a custody case, but also so will be the conduct of your boyfriend.
If he has a shady background, it will be used against you.
This will put your boyfriend smack-dab in the middle of your divorce, which is a quick way to put a damper on your new relationship.
You need to be especially careful if you have children from your marriage.
Legal reasons not to date before divorce As far as the courts are concerned, you are still legally married until the divorce is finalized.
In states that recognize fault in a divorce case, dating during divorce can be viewed as adultery.
Emotional reasons not to date during divorce When you are separated or going through a divorce, the attention that a boyfriend shows you can feel like a breath of fresh air and boost your self-esteem.
While he may serve as a distraction and help you avoid some of the pain of your divorce, you will eventually need to face those emotions.
A new relationship at this time is not going to be based on the real you.