Shed the dead weight, put boundaries in place so that you can be genuinely available for a new relationship.
If you’re ruled by fear, it will be a dramatic, insecure interaction and you may end up sabotaging a potential relationship or being with someone that reflects your fears.
Know the difference between internal and external factors that are triggering your fears.
People who don’t know or use their boundaries and red flags analyse the crapola out of things. Say it with me – Sex without the intimacy, care, trust, respect and love, is just sex.
They rationalise and project all sorts of excuses on it or they deny the existence or extent of the issue – this is dangerous. Sex doesn’t communicate anything emotionally but combined with a genuine emotional connection that exists, can enhance intimacy.
A lot of people think being ‘ready’ means ready to get attention, have companionship, get sex, an ego stroke – ready to jump back in the saddle.
However being ready to date, which prepares you for being ready for a relationship is actually about being mentally and emotionally ready.
In this weeks quiz, find out your dating readiness. If there’s stuff that you disagreed with, take it as a signal to dig deep within and be aware that if you proceed to date anyway without addressing them, you need to own your part in what results.
While agreeing with the above doesn’t mean ‘Shazam!
When you break up, it’s best to take it that it’s ‘done’ so that you don’t languish in limbo putting your life on hold and delaying processing your feelings.
Without committing to your relationship being over, you are trying to keep your options open, which is unfair to others you may become involved with.
When we don’t trust others it’s because we don’t trust ourselves.