another nigerian scammer story I am a mid forties woman living in Melbourne and have been on searching for a partner. .he could not believe he had met such an angel as me. ) I soon gave him my number and he began ringing me frequently calling me “Sweetie, Honey” etc. In early February 2009 a man by the name of Tyon Gates ([email protected] me an email telling me how beautiful I was and that he wanted to get to know me . He soon removed his profile from the dating site and we were chatting frequently on yahoo messenger (which he helped me set up!Bullies, narcissists, borderlines, histrionics and sociopaths like targets.
He kept assuring me that he would pay me back and that he was going to make me very happy! HE was so grateful and kept telling me how much he loved me. He assured me that he would not ask me for anymore money but then his friend was talking to me and asked me to help him with more money so Tyon could leave and come to me. Somehow he seemed to bring me round with his charm and also was very manipulative in his convincing me that he just needs a bit more money. Then later asked me to help him with a little more money..
He asked me my ring size and said that he had bought me a ring. I kept telling him I did not have it and could not meet my rent payments or buy food. Through his pleading and demands I sent another AUD$650.00.
The last time he called me he said he was at the bank picking up the last money I sent and that he loved me very much! I asked them for information about what hospital he was in. They kept trying to ring me so I pulled the phone out of the wall.
They then rang me back about half an hour later and told me they needed $50,000 in Nigerian currency before they could operate. I asked again what hospital but they were being very evasive. I was feeling bad as I could not understand what was going on and that if in fact he was in hospital, then I ought to be helping!
These are wonderful qualities, which make you a great catch— (e.g., borderlines, narcissists, histrionics, sociopaths and their variants) because it makes you easier to steamroll.
This means you have to learn to be more discerning and develop dating street smarts when it comes to new relationships.
Once a flaw is exposed, this type of individual will deny its existence or punish you for having witnessed it. I’m not talking about superficial changes like, “I have trouble letting down my guard and expressing my feelings when I’m upset about something, but I’m working on it.
It would help if when you notice I’m quiet, clam up or seem like I’m upset if you would try to draw me out a little bit because I want to be able to talk about these things and resolve issues as they arise.
However, like most victims of a scam, they’ve been willing targets.
A scam artist and/or emotional predator can easily identify a potential mark in the crowd.
Reality: If someone seems too good to be true, she or he probably is. A healthy individual acknowledges his or her personal short-comings and works on them. Ideally, you should be looking to meet someone whose flaws, personal quirks and issues don’t hurt you.