I’ll call them – Cool Logicians and Heartfelt Believers. They have read the experts and considered the research. Cool Logicians are also aware that dating more than one person at a time can raise your perceived value.
A typical realist would like to believe in true love, but life’s hard knocks have chiseled them into a cynical dater.
They’ve been on the scene for a while and have decided that as long as they meet someone, they might be ok. They plan their every move with a view to meeting someone.
I estimate they make up about 60% of the UK population. They know, just as the Dating by Numbers group do, that opening up your options is a good idea, and they’ll often be found online dating.
But they can be so realistic that, in true British style, they get down on themselves and decide that they might as well just ‘settle’.
My very unscientific survey tells me they make up about 20% of the UK dating population. They decide which parties they go to based on the number of single people there, they choose their friends based on whether they’ll help them open up their single network and they join clubs and classes in order to meet more single people.
They know what they want – they often have a very specific idea of the person they want to meet in mind – and they’re going out to get it.Unlike the Dating by Numbers group, they don’t date excessively, they just date smart.Unfortunately, this stealth approach is a bit off-putting when it comes to love.Dating in the UK can often imply the start of a relationship.Whereas, from what I know about US dating culture, it’s a more casual activity where a simple coffee date has very little agenda. They’re single, many of them would love to meet someone (they’re romantics at heart), but they’re not the most proactive of people.Their approach is to go about their everyday lives, and hope they’ll bump into someone – hey, sometimes it works!