A military combat deployment is one of the most emotionally super-charged environments imaginable. The threat of loss of the other boosts attraction considerably for both partners.
Lack of access to each other, paired with short-lived reunions during R & R weekends, fuels unrealistic fantasies of the true potential of the relationship.
Dating too long
Some marital experts would argue that two years is a good amount of time to wait.
If you are looking for a general rule of thumb, then two years is probably a good length of time for most people, but I don’t personally favor any hard-and-fast rule about how long a courtship should be.
Real compatibility is hard to assess based on limited opportunities for interaction.
The fantasy script of the stateside partner incorporates the potent thought, “My partner is a hero,” and all sorts of positive traits are then linked to this global perception.
In each audience that I’ve spoken to about marital decision-making, there is almost always someone who raises a hand and says, “My parents fell in love and got married a month later, and they’ve been completely happy together for the last 50 years.” The core of this statement is an assertion that lifelong happy marriages are possible with very short courtships. So, in all cases, if we were to honestly weigh the emotional, psychological, and financial costs of a bad decision, wouldn’t wisdom in all cases suggest a relatively long courtship? This is good advice, but I think it's pointless unless you counsel couples to start having sex after a reasonable time of couple-dom, say, six months.
If couples wait to have sex until they are married, and wait two years to get married, they have no idea how they will after the initial glow of sex wears off.Where is your statistical proof that those people are happy?What you consider cultural bias, I consider the evolution of humanity.Since sex is what sets marriage apart from all other relationships, normally, I would hope you counsel couples not to wait.Or at least advise them that they are flying blind and putting their couple-dom at serious risk. A lot of couples don't know whether they are bonded together because of sex or because of actual long-term compatibility.We simply know better than to take chances on lifelong decisions just for the sake of tradition, whereas in some parts of the East, they still make that mistake, as is also evident through all the war going on over there.