What do you think would have happened if she didn’t ignore her emotions? Perhaps the guy would see her vulnerability and see if she’s ok.
What if she was attuned to how the verbal abuse was making her feel? Or perhaps he couldn’t care less and she would finally have enough pain to get out of that abusive relationship. Either way, it would momentarily break the pattern of abuse.
Perhaps not as much physical abuse as mental and emotional abuse.
We as a society don’t tend to focus on mental and emotional abuse simply because the bruises and scars of emotional abuse are not as obvious and easy to notice.
(The longer we stay, the worse the pattern becomes.)In this society, we typically just blame the man who has been abusive.
Fair enough, it’s never OK to abuse another and of course he should stop.
I love black men, but when I'm in public with my black boyfriend, the black women snarl at me, one called me a "witch" (substitute "b" for "w") and they act angry that a gorgeous white chick is taking their black men from them.
I have several white girlfriends and we almost all... Not all black women care about white women dating black men.
In other words, we are “helping” the abuser by being in the role of an easy abusee or victim. I know you too can break the cycle of abuse and create the space in your life to invite healthy and nurturing relationships to enter.
One of the biggest reasons I think women get themselves in chronically abusive situations is because she had not being honest and truthful to her emotions.
If you are already in an abusive situation, the perspective of this article may not always serve you, so please take caution in how you interpret this article.
If you are in an abusive situation, then for your sake do everything you can to get out of there if you can.
You are too important to be continually subjected to abuse, whether that’s physical, emotional, or sexual.