The feelings you’re having toward your dad in the aftermath of your mother’s death are understandable.When one parent dies and the remaining parent begins dating or marries someone else, it can be very hard for the adult child to accept, no matter how soon after the death it occurs.
Gather photographs and place them in a special album.
Join Pinterest and make a board with pins that remind you of your mother.
Of the women interviewed for her book, 59% of the surviving fathers had remarried and 31% of the women who reported “poor relationships” with their fathers had experienced the remarriage of their father within one year from the time of the mother’s death.
While Edelman strongly recommends that surviving fathers wait a minimum of one calendar year before moving towards remarriage, obviously not all fathers heed her advice ~ and clearly your father has already made his choice.
Partly that is because you may be feeling a need to remain loyal to your mother and respectful of her memory, and you may be worried that your father will cease to remember and love this irreplaceable person you both have lost.
It may be helpful for you to keep in mind that you and your father are grieving very different losses, and the relationships you had with the person who died are very different too.
Your father has lost his spouse, while you have lost a parent.
I don’t know how long your parents were married, how close they were to each other, or anything else about their relationship, but I do know that however your father reacts to your mother’s death depends on many, many different factors.
He says constantly that he wouldn't change one thing in his life as it is today for anything. I miss my mom so much, there is such a void without her and it is so heartbreaking that the one person who could tell the best "mom" stories won't even speak her name.