Minor defects mixed with male strength, claim experts, create “instant glamour,” haloing a man with a scintillating, come-hither aura. But at the same time he was “a lovely man, kind, considerate, and understanding”. He ingratiated himself with taste-makers and gate-keepers and schmoozed his way to Hollywood and into an acting career that comprised 100 films. His interpersonal finesse, decency spiked with devilry, and his charm were “as delicious as French pastry”.
The Bad Guy Myth By tradition great seducers are social deviants and love devils, right? Smart is Sexy A man never won a woman with sweet nothings alone. Of course intelligence varies among ladykillers but “distinction of mind” (as poet Ovid observed), is catnip to women. He was a spindly 6ft 4in with bottle-end glasses who resembled a “gigantic grasshopper”.
Lord Byron: British 19th-century poet and romantic idol.
“Mad, bad and dangerous to know”, he was also lovable and “quite simply irresistible”.5.
He won movie star, Patricia Neal (his wife of 30 years), with his conversational devilry and comic banter over a candlelit dinner. As all great seducers know, Venus is “the laughter-loving goddess”.
Changing Face of the Great Seducer Preferences in great seducers do fluctuate.
Yet when he arrived at Oxford, he was a love-magnet to the most gifted women.
He married one of these – a cultivated Belgian beauty – in 1919 and during their 35 years together he produced a staggering body of work: major novels such as Brave New World, poetry, short stories, screenplays, and 23 volumes of essays. By mutual consent, the marriage was open and Huxley’s lovers were legion, both in England and Hollywood where he spent his last years.“He was ribald and cynical and brilliant,” gushed one of his conquests.He was effete and emotive and looked like “a woman dressed as a man” in his recherché costumes.Another contradiction that increased his charismatic charge was that he limped, the result of a club foot. According to psychologist Daniel Goleman, high emotional IQ – attunement, intuition and the ability to engineer consent – confers a huge erotic advantage. He fibbed, broke rules, told filthy jokes, caroused with shady characters and cheated on women – even his beloved wife.The idea, which goes back to antiquity, is that love requires artistry: imagination, theatre, intuition, passion, customised spells for individual women and a sophisticated skill set of physical and psychological charms.The 18th-century Venetian Giacomo Casanova was the Michelangelo of love.Instead of the familiar routine approach, they handle love as an art.