There were many times that I cringed inwardly, reflexively, while doing a call — while panting, “oh yes, big Daddy! Most interestingly, playing the default “white girl” character and assuming that role as a black West Indian woman was a fascinating juxtaposition with calls involving men of all colors.
He was very interested in a sexually dominating kind of call with a woman of my color.
It was emotionally draining and I couldn’t wait for the call to be over and it seemed to drag on incessantly.
A kind of dream young woman, between the ages of 18-24 (unless otherwise specified) that a (more often than not) man could pick up the phone and connect to for conversation and sexual pleasure. The collusion of whiteness with ultimate fantasy female presupposes that this is what the majority of male callers are looking for (especially regulars), and expect — and seemingly, they do.
We were always available, always perky, ultra stereotypically feminine, submissive (unless otherwise specified), always ready to indulge and utterly capable. Surrounded by other women callers, who were majority white (at outward glance anyway), with few women of color meant many times, I would be the only one on my shift, so the potential for role-playing outside of your race was relatively high for the woc at any given time.
And I became an expert at orgasmic breathing over the phone and recreating the sweet squelch of wet pussy inside an ear.
The adult phone chat industry is a sub-set of the larger sex and pornography industry in the US and elsewhere, and on its own, accounts for a “4.5 billion” dollar revenue of the overall sex market that brings in “57 billion [in] world wide business annually.” Certainly, it’s another one of those places where race, desirability and perceptions of desirability underscore many facets of the very workings of the industry, similarly, inside the adult film industry.
I did not get to be a sassy, sexually autonomous or dominating Asian woman, ever.
The vast majority of callers identified as white males, and if they are to be believed, engaged in a variety of industries from professional and civic men to small business owners, blue-collar workers, ex-military, service men and many others.
The chat line, too, is also a place where sexual desirability is reflected in and revealed through the “products” of this industry, and the ways in which they are marketed.
Because of the pervasiveness of sociopolitical, cultural and historical constructs of race, the insidious effects of racism, internalized and otherwise, and white supremacist heteropatriarchal norms, it’s no wonder that who we deem desirable or want to date becomes informed by a variety of these norms.
For a few months shy of a year, I worked part-time, then full time at an adult chat line business in the United States.